Amy Ledyard2 Comments

5 More Things To Never Say to a Pregnant Lady: Due Date Edition

Amy Ledyard2 Comments
5 More Things To Never Say to a Pregnant Lady: Due Date Edition

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about the 5 things you should never say to a pregnant lady. Well, tomorrow is my due date, and I'm still pregnant, so, with some encouragement, I thought I'd share a few more things you just shouldn't say to a pregnant lady. Please know that this is written in good fun. But seriously, when in doubt talk about the weather especially when there are pregnancy hormones involved.

1) When is that baby coming?!?

I don't know. If I did, I would surely hibernate until said date, but, as that is next to impossible to predict, here I am having a hypothetical discussion that's probably making me a little cranky. Trust me, no one wants to know when Baby is coming more than mom and dad.

Instead, try saying:

You look great!

I'm so excited for you guys!

Baby will be here before you know it! Do you want to meet up for coffee/lunch/a walk/etc. to help pass the time?

2) The apple will fall when it's ready.

Yes, well what about when the tree is ready? Because the tree is ready now. And your pointing out that the apple isn't ready yet is not helping this impatient tree. Beware if you say this to any pregnant lady at her due date; it's fall, and apples are readily available making your chances of having apples thrown at you very high.

Instead, try saying:

Is there anything you need?

Let me bring you a meal.

How about I come over and wash a load of dishes for you?

3) Birth horror stories

This is a general category, but it deserves to be mentioned. No mom awaiting labor wants to hear about how painful your labor was or how hard it was or how terrifying it was or how long overdue you went. By all means, share away after baby has safely arrived, but, prior to? Only encouraging stories and anecdotes need apply.

Instead, try saying:

You can do this!

Sure, labor isn't usually easy, but it IS worth it!

You were created to bring this baby into the world; you got it!

4) If you go much longer, there's no way you're going to be able to push that baby out!

First of all, thank you for reminding me that I'm starting to resemble a walrus. Second of all, thank you for your vote of confidence. Seriously though, don't you think that possibility has already occurred to every mom ever? Don't give us even more reason to doubt and fear.

Instead, try saying:

You look great! (By the way, this is ALWAYS a safe bet.)

You were made to do this.

Can I come over and sweep/vacuum for you?

5) You're STILL pregnant?!?!

I know this was on the first list, but it bears repeating. Friendly tip: by the end of pregnancy, most people are tired of maternity clothes and ready to not feel like a beached whale. We are still well aware of the miracle that is happening inside our bodies, but we are excited to meet our coming little one and are, on some level, starting to fear that we're going to be pregnant for the rest of our lives. Pointing out the very obvious fact that someone is still pregnant is like rubbing salt in a wound. I feel very sure that there has never been a woman who stuffed pillows under her shirt after her baby was born in order to achieve that 8 months pregnant look, so this "question" is really unnecessary.

Instead, try saying:

Almost there!

Can I buy you some diapers?

I want to bring you a meal.

 

Again I say it: be kind in what you say. Your words hold the power of life and death.